IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. 
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. 
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. 
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. 
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. 
Slower is better. 
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. 
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve 
then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. 
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. 
Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'll be mad at yourself 
a year later for staying when things are not better. 
The only person you can control in a relationship is you. 
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. 
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, 
Why would he treat you any different? 
Always have your own set of friends separate from his. 
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. 
If something bothers you, speak up. 
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. 
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has 
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. 
He is a man, nothing more nothing less. 
Never let a man define who you are. 
Never borrow someone else's man. 
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. 
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. 
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. 
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about 
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship 
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists 
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. 
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right. 
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your 
always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. 
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. 
Keep him in your radar but get to know others. 
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another 
RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. 
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate 
them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. 

Positive Attitude

A diabetic man lost his feet due to the disease and he says..."now I won't get tired tying my shoes" soon there after, he again lost the other one and he says...”now I won’t get tired traveling” eventually this man lost his eyesight and he says…”Now I can maximize the use of my senses since I would just be focusing on the four.” being positive doesn’t mean indifferent on the norm, being positive is simply saying…“I want to live a happy life no matter where I am, no matter what I have come to be”-

The Measure of a Man

A few years back I started reading the book written by Sidney Poitier and until now I have not finished reading-nothing new!! I was looking around and stumbled upon the same title and was captivated by the lines and I decided to share it.

The Measure of a Man
Author Unknown/Anonymous



Not “How did he die?” But “How did he live?”
Not “What did he gain?” But “What did he give?”
Not “What was his station?” But “Had he a heart?”
And “How did he play his God-given part?”
Not “What was his shrine?” Nor “What was his creed?”
But “Had he befriended those really in need?”
Not “What did the piece in the newspaper say?”
But “How many were sorry when he passed away?”
Was he ever ready with a word of good cheer,
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?
These are the units to measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth

who's in control?

Sometimes I wonder how the brain works. There are moments when you wish to forget something or someone but simply find it hard to do so. Subsequently, there are times when you wanted to remember, but your memory suddenly sucks. I tend to recall trivial things but fail to account all the important events of my life. Simply put, I am with selective amnesia... only my subconscious is in-control. 

The Power of Vision

Every man must have a vision, a goal that would guide him in which direction he will choose to take. Below are some questions that would help one determine the visions or goals in life and where one is now in achieving them.

1. What is your deepest desire?
2. What do you want to leave this generation as a contribution?
3. What is an idea that never leaves you?
4. What do you constantly imagine in your future?
5. What do you truly feel passionate about?
6. What one thing would you do if you know you couldn't fail?
7. What do you see your future looking like?
8. What is the important thing you wish you could do in your life?
9. What are your constant re-occuring dreams?and what are you ready to sacrifice for it?
10. What would bring you greatest fulfillment?

If you have time, please answer these questions.
I believe these will help in clearly defining your goals/dreams in life. :)But a key point would be to prepare yourself in the process to achieve them making it truly realistic and achievable goal...

Women's Beauty

A woman was asked what she used to make her complexion so beautiful and her whole being so bright and attractive. She answered: "I use for my lips - truth; I use for my voice - kindness; I use for my ears - compassion; I use for my hands - charity; I use for my figure - uprightness; I use for my heart - love; I use for anyone who do not like me - prayer."

The Making of a Woman

By the time the Lord made women, He was into the sixth day working overtime.  An Angel  appeared and said "Why are you spending so much  time on this one?"

And the Lord answered and  said, "Have you read the specification sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not elastic; have 200+ movable parts, all replaceable; run on black coffee and leftovers; have a lap that can hold three children at one time; have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart; and have six pairs of hands."  

The Angel was astounded at the requirements for this one. "Six pairs of hands! No way!"  said the Angel.

The Lord replied, "Oh, it's not the hands that are the problem.  It's the three pair of eyes that women must have!"

"And that's on the standard model?" the Angel asked.

The Lord nodded in agreement, "Yep, one pair of eyes are to see through the closed door as she asks her children what they are doing even though she already knows. Another pair in the back of her head are to see what she needs to know even though no one thinks she can. And the third pair are here in the front of her head.  They are for looking at an errant child and saying that she understands and loves him or her without even saying a single word."

The Angel tried to stop the Lord  "This is too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish."

"But I can't!" The Lord protested, "I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself  when she is sick AND can feed a family of six on a pound of hamburger and can get a nine year old to stand in the shower."

The Angel moved closer and touched the woman, "But you have made her so soft, Lord."

"She is soft," the Lord agreed, "but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."

"Will she be able to think?" asked the Angel.

The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, she will be able to reason, and negotiate."

The Angel then noticed something and reached out and touched the woman's cheek. "Oops, it looks like You have a leak with this model. I told You that You were trying to put too much into  this one."

"That's not a leak." the Lord objected.  "That's a tear!"

"What's the tear for?" the Angel asked.

The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy, her sorrow, her disappointment, her pain, her loneliness, her grief, and her pride."  

The Angel was impressed.  "You are a genius, Lord.  You thought of everything for this one.  You even created the tear!"

The Lord looked at the Angel and smiled and said, "I'm afraid you are wrong again.  I created the woman, but she created the tear!"

Do More

Read it on a board at some place.. So nice to read and so nice if we can do it the same way-

Do more than exist; live.
Do more than touch; feel.
Do more than look; observe.
Do more than read; absorb.
Do more than hear; listen.
Do more than think; ponder.
Do more than talk; say something.