The past week has been a very stressful one at work for me and I am sure that many of you probably had very similar experiences. When I am faced with this kind of situation, there is nothing more I would like to do during the weekend than to stay at home and recharge – well, maybe going to the restau or a movie(but that is not always possible).
Anyway this week end was pretty happening had couple of guests arriving one after the other and finally we were out for dinner when the downpour started and knowing the unpredictability of bangalore's rain we stayed back at mamma's.though wasn't feeling too comfy to be there - reasons unknown, may be i preferred staying at our own mansion :P - you c wanted to feel all cozy.hmmm alas! as usual ..not that i do not like being at mamma's, though very relaxing for me for sure but this weekend could have been better than the best.Sunday was not all that happening it was 2 strangers under one roof :)
01 June 2009
Difficult life
One of the people i know is having "bad time" of her life this made me do some thinking some search and here's what i found
I read this blog and somehow could relate certain things to it hence posting it here,Its a blog of a doctor :
Why do some women end up with losers or abusers?
The answer - abusive men are often exciting. Their passion, when properly applied, can be quite captivating. Unfortunately, they frequently use that same passion when they become upset to inflict evil upon a woman. Often their victims say that their rage seemed to appear “out of nowhere.”
In addition, many women in this situation often use this phrase, “I know what he did was bad, but when he’s good, he’s sooo good. This bad stuff isn’t really him. I know the person he truly is.” What’s sad is that they often see this man as someone who is basically good who just happens to lose his temper on occasion.
What they, need to remember is what James Allen once said:
“Circumstances don’t make a man, they reveal him.”
If a man ever hits a woman that violent nature was inside of him before he ever met that woman. She did not cause or contribute to that violent nature, nor is she responsible for it.
I read this blog and somehow could relate certain things to it hence posting it here,Its a blog of a doctor :
Why do some women end up with losers or abusers?
The answer - abusive men are often exciting. Their passion, when properly applied, can be quite captivating. Unfortunately, they frequently use that same passion when they become upset to inflict evil upon a woman. Often their victims say that their rage seemed to appear “out of nowhere.”
In addition, many women in this situation often use this phrase, “I know what he did was bad, but when he’s good, he’s sooo good. This bad stuff isn’t really him. I know the person he truly is.” What’s sad is that they often see this man as someone who is basically good who just happens to lose his temper on occasion.
What they, need to remember is what James Allen once said:
“Circumstances don’t make a man, they reveal him.”
If a man ever hits a woman that violent nature was inside of him before he ever met that woman. She did not cause or contribute to that violent nature, nor is she responsible for it.
The Palace
Here this gentleman is worried about his comforts,his parents his siblings,his friends his family and wants his wife to be with him. He does not offer any help. In fact when she finds it difficult to manage the house and office work, he is very unsympathetic. He says women have always managed worse situations, so his wife does not need any special help.What do you tell such a personality?How does one make such a person understand his wife’s need for extra care and comfort?and more so when his wife isn't a very healthy person? He subjects her to verbal abuse and is a very uncaring husband. Wonder how he will handle his child?
There are many women under similar situation. Many women are there who have unsupportive husbands and still they manage to pull on in their marriage. They are very stressed and soon their health takes a toll.
Since divorce is not an option for many of these women, they have to be taught coping skills so as to cope with their unhappy marriage. They have to be taught to pull their inner strength and make some meaning of their lives. They must be taught to form support groups and seek some form of relaxation. It is an uphill task, but a majority manage. Hopefully their husbands will change watching their coping skills.
Normally when a partner wishes the other would change, the other one will resent it.It is basically to do with one’s personality. If one lacks sympathy and empathy, then no amount of education will help.No psychiatry would ever help,it all helps when a person is ready to accept a change. These are inborn qualities. Your wife is your life partner, you are supposed to share all her/your joys and problems. A a husband one is duty bound to care for her. Even illiterate men are concerned about their wives’ health, In present times, husbands accompany their wives for their medical check-ups and make sure they do not face too many hardships.
After All the realisation dawns when it is too late "Why marry?" to be in paradise with lots of unceasing love and care?The promises the talks the dreams dreamt before marriage all go in vain..the palace crashes to ash ! Embracing death remains the only solution(.?)what would be more peaceful and soothing to a burning heart
There are many women under similar situation. Many women are there who have unsupportive husbands and still they manage to pull on in their marriage. They are very stressed and soon their health takes a toll.
Since divorce is not an option for many of these women, they have to be taught coping skills so as to cope with their unhappy marriage. They have to be taught to pull their inner strength and make some meaning of their lives. They must be taught to form support groups and seek some form of relaxation. It is an uphill task, but a majority manage. Hopefully their husbands will change watching their coping skills.
Normally when a partner wishes the other would change, the other one will resent it.It is basically to do with one’s personality. If one lacks sympathy and empathy, then no amount of education will help.No psychiatry would ever help,it all helps when a person is ready to accept a change. These are inborn qualities. Your wife is your life partner, you are supposed to share all her/your joys and problems. A a husband one is duty bound to care for her. Even illiterate men are concerned about their wives’ health, In present times, husbands accompany their wives for their medical check-ups and make sure they do not face too many hardships.
After All the realisation dawns when it is too late "Why marry?" to be in paradise with lots of unceasing love and care?The promises the talks the dreams dreamt before marriage all go in vain..the palace crashes to ash ! Embracing death remains the only solution(.?)what would be more peaceful and soothing to a burning heart
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