Hey everyone. I'm planning on writing(just a thought as of now) a book with the name. ie "The Loser, The loss and the toss". Its a general book which does not tell anyone what to do. It does not tell how to do things in life, it does not tell how to be a better person. It only tells you how to SEE things in life. How to find the best in the worst happened. It tells you how to see a defeat right in the eye and tell it that 'I am better than you. You cannot break me.'


I just started writing this, mood swing and then the topic became serious. :D


Whatever, it just starts with how we look at things. Its like how a loser is percieved. A loser is perceived as a person who is not successfull. A person who has failed. But if you look at it in another way, a loser is a person who knows how not to lose again. The only way for him is UP. There is no way down. A loser is a person who actually knows how to succeed. He knows how not to fail. A loser is a person who defines a winner. Without a loser, there ain't a winner. If nobody loses, who wins?


Its just the matter of how you look at things. What is your life metaphor. What is your funda of life. The best way to live is not being fit, not being rich, not being successful. Its by being optimistic and staying happy. Rest everything is just a peck.


Ok Have ranted enough for the day :P signing off, goodnight ! 

The Master's Plan

This is a poem by Russel Kelfer:

You are who you are for a reason.
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're precious and perfect unique design,
Called God's special woman or man.

You look like you look for a reason.
Our God made no mistake.
He knit you together within the womb,
You're just what he wanted to make.

The parents you had were the ones he chose,
And no matter how you may feel,
They were custom designed with God's plan in mind,
And they bear the Master's seal.

No, that trauma you faced was not easy,
And God wept that it hurt you so;
But it was allowed to shape your heart
So that into his likeness you'd grow.

You are who you are for a reason,
You've been formed by the master's rod,
You are who you are, beloved,
Because there is a GOD!

:)

I dont think an explanation or my views on this is even required.Just leaving it as it is..just enjoy !

Unhealthy thoughts unhealthy food..

When you consistently eat unhealthy food, sooner or later your body suffers. As food is to the body, thoughts are to the mind. Thus, every thought you subject yourself to - be it something you read, a video/movie you watch, people you interact with, has an impact on your mind. To consistently maintain a healthy and positive mind, be picky, extremely picky about the environments you subject yourself to. Avoid negative environments to the extent possible, and choose positive, uplifting environments instead. Just as you go on a healthy food diet for the body, strive to go on a "healthy thought diet" for your mind. 

Yugadi !

Today is the first day of  hindu calendar 'chaitra masa'. Yugadi means yuga - an era and aadi is the beginning.It falls on a different day every year because the Hindu calendar is a lunisolar calendar. The hindus of the deccan celebrate and welcome the new year with the mixture of bitter and sweet.(very less of bitter-neem leaf and more of sweet- jaggery )Signifying life. The bitter enhances the sweet flavour again a metaphor. The bitter moments in life are very less and gives value to the sweetness in life. Both are to be savoured and enjoyed together..


The people of Maharashtra term the same festival, observed on the same day, Gudi Padva.similarly the sindhis call it cheti chand..Manipuris call this fest Sajibu Cheiraoba. Whille its Baisakhi for Punjabis and for tamilians its Puthandu. Keralites call it Vishu, Biharis call it vaishak.People from Assam call it Rongali Bihu, while people of WBengal call it Naba Barsha


Its a belief that lord Brahma completed creation of universe on this day..Towards Padva, trees bear new foliage and appear fresh. The earth springs up to life with beautiful colours and brightness on this day.Hence all temples and homes are decorated with colourful flowers and preparations start early in the morning.


The yugadi sweet is usually the 'pachadi' or 'bevu' made out of most dry fruits almost all fruits,raw mango tamarind, jaggery and ofcourse the main ingredient the flowers of neem.Also the most important fruit is 'Bela'(Wood Apple).All this consumed on this day helps combat the probability of any forthcoming diseases/allergies/infections to a large extent as it develops the immunity and cools the system down preparing it for the peak summer.


The kannadigas celebrate the festival buying a New panchang(hindu calendar), washing their hair, cleaning up the pooja room and decorating it, and offering pooja to the panchang as well as to the deities. Preparing festival dishes and the special bevu.


Its a little different for the Marathis. ( no matter what the occasion is they need to hoist a flag) this festival is no different :-) Gudi is a bright green or yellow cloth adorned with brocade (zari) tied to the tip of a long bamboo over which gathi (sugar crystals-kalsakkare), neem leaves, a twig of mango leaves and a garland of red flowers are tied. A silver or copper pot or a bronze pot is inverted over it. This gudi is then hoisted outside the house, in a window, terrace or a high place for everybody to see it.The gudi, which is Brahma’s flag is hoisted in every house as a symbolic representation of victory. This is offered a pooja ritualistically with a resolve. 


For Punjabis, its a time for rejoice as its the ravi crop harvest time. Its a very enthusiastic time for the farmers & is very vibrant with colourful clothes and the whole city lighted and Cries of “Jatta aayi Baisakhi” reverberate in the skies.Men and women move towards the fields to celebrate the fest.They have a huge fair set up near the fields selling all kinds of eateries, toys and so on. The traditional folk dance bhangra and gidda are performed by men and women resp.They also have bull fights, kushti which is a major attraction.They visit the golden temple on this day. Atleast the near by gurudwara is visited wearing new colourful clothes.They prepare a sweet made of semolina.They have community lunch or 'Langar' and rejoice the food along with the whole city.Evenings usually have nagar kirtans. 


In Kashmir, a ceremonial bath and general festivity mark yugadi while in Himachal Pradesh devotees flock to the temple of Jwalamukhi and take a holy dip in the Hot Springs.  


Interesting isnt it?
This is the only festival thats celebrated around the same time by whole of India and significance is the same all over "mark of new year"..

Jam Sawli Hanumanji ki Jai!

Jam Savli/sawli is the shrine of Lord Hanuman. This is a place at the border of Maharastra. I personally have never been to this place but have heard quite a lot and would one day if possible like to visit it. But again, its said without Jam sawli baba wanting you to visit him you cannot ! Its a mandate that he invites you..Amazing is it not?

Our devotion to him itself is a blessing on us.Nothing happens without his wishes.Its quite close to Nagpur(Sausar Distt. Chhindwara) I believe. He is also called chamatkari baba or the magical Hanuman. The idol is huge under a tree in a supine position.Its an idol that's risen from mother earth all by itself..It is said to be very powerful..Here not just needs but even wants are fulfilled when prayed with utmost devotion with a pure heart and a pure soul. 

Full stop [.]

When one is in the spree of writing thoughts flow and its quite easy..It is probably one such day with me-
Full stop. Is it just a little punctuation mark? Or does it have something else to symbolize? For people it is just a stupid punctuation mark which tells us when a sentence ends and when a new one starts. And no doubt they are correct. But can we correlate it to our lives? Can we use a simple punctuation mark to have better lives?


YES! We can! A simple punctuation can help us be better people. Because for me a Fullstop is not something which is just a stupid punctuation mark, it is something which sets limitations. It is something which creates- bars, it is something which helps man separate himself from being needy and being greedy.


A fullstop to our growing demands. A fullstop to our needs. A fullstop to our bad deeds. A fullstop to what we want to be. A fullstop to jealousy among peers. A fullstop to industrialization. A fullstop to the not-so-needed technologies. A fullstop to corruption. A fullstop to illiteracy.


Does adding a simple punctuation mark to all these situations bring about a change in the paradigm of what we think of a "Punctuation mark"? Does it seem to you that Fullstop is just a punctuation mark?


A fullstop to smoking, a fullstop to excessive drinking, a fullstop to drugs, a fullstop to overeating, a fullstop to ignorance. Wouldn't adding a fullstop to all these make people better?


It is time we start looking at objects not only as objects, but as metaphors. Because everything around us, symbolizes something. We should try to inspire ourselves looking at them and try make our lives better. Unless and until we try change our way of looking at things in an optimistic manner, we can never be better human beings.


God helps those, who help themselves. :)

My Diamond

MY DIAMOND ( this came from my heart )


This is by far the most sincere and honest piece that I have ever written in my whole life, and this is for the most important and the most loving person that i know, I cherish this person ever since I opened my eyes, ever since I took my fist steps, from the time that I had my first full laugh, she watched me grow and have my own life directed by me, she's everything that I've always wanted to be when I grew up,I want to do everything for her just like she does for us, I want to be sweet, I want to be the perfect daughter, I don't want to ever let her down, never, she has always been so proud of me, bragging me, caring for me, protecting me, and I love her so much, I love the smell of her hair, the way she laughs when I tell jokes,I love the way she cooks for us, and I cannot bear the thought of losing her, she is the best in the world, she is the greatest, and she loves me more than anyone could ever do, she is my diamond......


When he came into my life, that's when the nightmare started, I totally became a different person, it's like, I've run away without looking back, I've changed my heart and turned into a person that I cannot fully describe, selfish? unfair? numb? disrespectful? evil? or hurtful perhaps, I can't look at the mirror anymore, cause everytime I do, I get disgusted with myself, I've forgotten all the people that matters the most, I've forggoten all the memories, I neglected all the screams, while I'm in a world of lies and deciets, she cries, waiting for my messages that never came, waiting for my hugs that were never there, she needs me and I ignored her, I can't feel anything anymore, I'm trapped with this feeling that I have for my private demon, instead of standing up for her and with her, I stood up for him, instead of being strong for her, I became weak because of him, and I'm sad, I can't remamber the last time I smiled without pretense, can't remember a lot of things that I love to do, it's all gone now, so is myself, i'm now drifting away, I'm losing myself, she is loosing me, and I'm loosing the people that I love, all because of this deep-undying feeling that I had for this someone, my private demon, i know that this sounds stupid and pointless, but i know, someday, I'll be coming back, from being the old me, I'll be the sweet daughter again, I'll be the funny sister again, i'll be myself again, and I'm going back, I'll be her child again, and  she'll be my diamond..These were my thoughts previously a couple of days ago..but now....






............Boom ! and Yes Today am confidently back..The same ME.. A happy, cheerful, confident, funloving, adorable ME..Mama, Always there for you.. The same old ME may be the better ME..who knows your Value, your love, your affection..

Last Day OF My Life !

I met a friend from my graduation days we  reminisced the times and felt so deliciously aged and sad..

"What would you do,if you knew that you are left with only 7 day's to live"


This was the question which was asked by my professor to his student's (including me of course)


Astonishingly,this was one of the question's.. ..No!! The only question in my life till date and also in life of most of my fellow class mates,which filled our mind's with myraid of answer's..


Of course, Many of us would like to do many of the thing's, if we know we have only few day's left.


But you wanna know the biggest truth!!


"NO ONE CAN PREDICT TOMMOROW"


And more bitter truth is...


"Tommorow could be your last day"


And so would be anyone else's.


So,I would like to extend to the previous  question..


What would you do if you knew that tommorow is the last day of your life?


I am pretty sure,that many would like to do a lot many thing's including those which they procastinated over a period of time.


And yeah!! "Today" & "Now" is alway's the time to complete the un-completed(deliberately used instead of incomplete) task's.
Coz it would be too late at "THE END OF LIFE".  




{Just a pointer: Its a known fact that almost everyone I mean everyone would want to convey 'love'to their beloveds}

Few Truths About Life

THE TRUTH

#1. Age is absolutely the worst predictor of someone’s maturity, intelligence, or general ability to operate with any sort of common sense. Related: At any given moment, most men are 20, 30, 45, 68 going on 13.

#2. Love doesn’t happen when you’re not looking for it. This is a made up, fairy tale, bullsh*t, passive-aggressive way to view love. When love happens when you’re not looking for it or ready for it, it’s called divorce down the road, so yeah, watch out for that.

#3. When you’re happy, people want you to be unhappy. When you’re unhappy, people want to cheer you up (but are probably secretly happy they are happier than you). The only way to actually be happy is to stop using anything external to determine your well-being.

#4. Any time you get really nervous about doing something and want to crawl in a hole to hide, then that’s, 9 times out of 10, the thing you need to do (the scary thing, not crawl into a hole and hide). Unless you’re nervous about jumping off a cliff, then, dude, use your discretion.

#5. Whatever you believe you are, YOU ARE.

#6. Whatever you think you deserve, YOU'LL GET.

#7. If you learn something necessary. If you grow in the process. If you go on to make something better, more efficient, or useful. Then, you did not fail.

#8. Most of the stuff you think you’ll use or want later will either end up in the trash or hauled around through every move. Your physical and mental being will thank you for letting go of all the baggage. Plus, moving sucks, why carry around all that crap?

#9. As a general rule, people who do not completely lose themselves in music are not to be trusted.

#10. Most of the things people say that are general rules are actually wrong. We’ve just never taken the time to challenge them.

#11. The quicker all the “shoulds” get out of your head, the better off you’ll be. Related: The reason most people are unhappy? Terrible expectation management. Actively pursue the meaning of your expectations, question their legitimacy, wonder why you have them, throw them out if superfluous, and move on. Quickly.I mean QUICKLY

#12. If humour is not the number one thing you look for in the opposite sex, then re-evaluate. The only thing that will keep a relationship together (and healthy) is being able to laugh at yourself and each other. It’s not always going to be lollipops, all day sex romps, and unicorns.

#13. There’s really never a reason to lie. If your thoughts, motives, and actions are pure, then you’ll never have a reason for dishonesty. Ever.

#14. Transparency on the internet isn’t about using a tactic, it’s about forcing yourself to live a life with nothing to hide (and to have a company without so many skeletons in your closet, you’ll go under if you get exposed).

#15. Loving yourself is, hands down, the only way to universal compassion. When you love yourself, you can’t help but be loving towards others. If you are critical of yourself, you will be critical of others. This is a simple equation.

Weenah's- PARADIGMS FOR LIFE ENGAGEMENT

While I was working earlier, about 2 yrs ago it was declared “No Operations” for one day. Our kind and supportive clients/customers approved the “day off” from work and prepare to take part in “A day to PAUSE and REFLECT about LIFE…and decide being a WINNER!” 


Took a while for me to recollect and put it all together though had few pointers in my drafts. All these days have been putting up related posts (Weenah's...)


BASIC OBSERVATION


The world is littered with the corpses of losers. 


1. Losers who allowed the fears, doubts, and obstacles of life to clobber their spirits. [The loser’s mind]
2. Losers whose energies are zapped empty due to their debilitating low self-esteem. [The loser’s heart]
3. Losers identified with the superficiality of life, giving premium only to what satisfies their basic needs. [the loser’s behaviour]


BASIC PREMISE


1. Today’s challenge is to fully engage with life. This is the winner’s basic disposition.
2. And life taken as it is consists of unbend-able principles, connections and interdependencies, and meaning or significance.
3. Too, when we engage with life, we are confronted with a multi-dimensional and mysterious experiences. And we do not have the luxury to abdicate with life.


PARADIGMS for LIFE ENGAGEMENT


Such premises command basic paradigms for living. Living them “separates the men from the boys.”


Champs  'cultivate character' They remain faithful to their principles even when no one is around. 
Champs  'Have the heart'. They nurture their intimacies not only to satisfy their own needs , but to be able to give themselves more effectively to the bigger community.
Champs  'Aim for the mission' They find their meaning, mooring, and motivation around their mission.
Champs   'Maintain Balance'They attend to all areas of their lives; and define what success is really for them personally.
Champs   'Prioritize the spirit' They live lives accountable to a higher being with whom no pretence can stand.
Champs   'Stay the course'They commit themselves to their winning lifestyles, no matter what.


Most of the Paradigms have been covered individually earlier.This is kinda synopsis..