SURNAME :
.Conveys so much..so much of a responsibility on the shoulders of the female?? Does only changing surname give you the whole and sole of carrying the legacy of the whole family or is more of the bonding and the love she gets from the family that makes her responsible enough to carry the whole and sole of the family ? This is one of the reasons why couples in India and neighboring countries want to have male kids so that some one from another family would carry the name of the so called family hence increasing the number with their family names.. I find no reason for a women to change her surname after marriage. Adding a surname doesn't strengthen any bond or doesn't increase respect according to me. Also , when its about a couple both share the life ahead. If its about expressing the ,marriage then both should add each others surname with theirs... Every girl is equally proud to be a part of her maternal family as guys are...For a girl, her surname is her identity. Its very difficult to let go of that identity after marriage.Your husband walks into your life when you are around 25 years old, when you have already liad the foundation of your life, forged your own identity, earned your financial independence and self-esteem. Why should you be identified by someone else? Are women transferable properties, who will be transferred from the father to the husband by changing the surname?If changing surname means respecting the partner,Why is there a double standard? Does it mean that a man doesn't show respect to the person he marries by keeping his parents' surname and not adopting his wife's? A wife is an equal partner in this day and age and should be given options.It is an unnecessary legal hassle. Too many documents to be changed or legally okay ed. End of the day the person remains the same. So what is in a surname? Unfortunately, the chauvinistic Indian man feels that by changing the wives name she will in a way belong to him. The choice of retaining her maiden surname shouldn't it belong to the lady concerned? Does the identity of a married woman lie only in her surname? The only practical solution is to keep the maiden name as a middle name and compromise. So gals ... its your call.I have changed the surname, but i strongly believe that it should be a lady's choice whether she would like to continue her maiden surname or pick up her husbands surname. No one has right to interfere in the same.
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