The Palace

Here this gentleman is worried about his comforts,his parents his siblings,his friends his family and wants his wife to be with him. He does not offer any help. In fact when she finds it difficult to manage the house and office work, he is very unsympathetic. He says women have always managed worse situations, so his wife does not need any special help.What do you tell such a personality?How does one make such a person understand his wife’s need for extra care and comfort?and more so when his wife isn't a very healthy person? He subjects her to verbal abuse and is a very uncaring husband. Wonder how he will handle his child?

There are many women under similar situation. Many women are there who have unsupportive husbands and still they manage to pull on in their marriage. They are very stressed and soon their health takes a toll.

Since divorce is not an option for many of these women, they have to be taught coping skills so as to cope with their unhappy marriage. They have to be taught to pull their inner strength and make some meaning of their lives. They must be taught to form support groups and seek some form of relaxation. It is an uphill task, but a majority manage. Hopefully their husbands will change watching their coping skills.

Normally when a partner wishes the other would change, the other one will resent it.It is basically to do with one’s personality. If one lacks sympathy and empathy, then no amount of education will help.No psychiatry would ever help,it all helps when a person is ready to accept a change. These are inborn qualities. Your wife is your life partner, you are supposed to share all her/your joys and problems. A a husband one is duty bound to care for her. Even illiterate men are concerned about their wives’ health, In present times, husbands accompany their wives for their medical check-ups and make sure they do not face too many hardships.

After All the realisation dawns when it is too late "Why marry?" to be in paradise with lots of unceasing love and care?The promises the talks the dreams dreamt before marriage all go in vain..the palace crashes to ash ! Embracing death remains the only solution(.?)what would be more peaceful and soothing to a burning heart